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The Lost Document

Did I ever tell you how my things disappeared in 2011 and 2012?

That era, when I was seeking God but more than a little confused, I began to lose things. My favorite trusty computer and computer bag that had walked with me all over tornado country on my writing trips: Gone. My sentimental coffee pot that had worked for years: Dead, on one significant morning when my “coffee from God” also ran out. My job at the jail that I thought would be perfect and was certain to get: Gone, because I failed the lie detector test (not lying!)  These dramatic, unexplainable losses convinced me that God was doing something in my life, although I had no idea what. Certainly, He got my attention.

Now it’s 2017. It would be nice to think I have matured past the point of needing to learn life lessons from such drastic measures.

So I went confidently to my computer the other day to edit an important document and found that it was not there.

Gone.

It still had the correct title, but the content contained words from a different document.

The original words had simply vanished. I searched my entire computer. I tried to revert to the previous version. Nothing worked.  I don’t ever remember this happening to me before.  I finally showed my problem to Marnell and he-

But I haven’t mentioned Marnell.

Dear me.

This is very complicated.

If you read my blog, then you must know that I love my life here on Brady Street. I love the hospital, I love school, I love my three beautiful and funny friends on Laurel Street. I love twilight and the St. Joseph’s River, and the way the geese touch down in the water as the darkness and the light trade places. I love the Baker’s Nook, and an early morning walk to the Corner Cafe for pecan pancakes. It’s not that I don’t get stressed or tired or angry or weepy from time to time, or that I live a perfect life, but I just love all these things.

Those three friends I mentioned are perhaps the most favorite of that list, and I just knew one of them was going to get married and ruin our perfect “It’s Saturday-night-let’s-go-get-fish-tacos” group of four. Just to make it clear how much I loved our times together, I told them in a dramatic moment one day that if one of them goes off and gets married, I am NOT coming to the wedding.

I didn’t mean it of course, but I wanted them to be worried that I might mean it. For myself, I had no worries. I had arrived at a state of feeling nearly certain that romance was not part of my life story, and that as long as God was with me, that was okay and perhaps better considering my love for studying and words and the Middle East and other unconventional things.

Then, in early February, I got an email from this guy named Marnell Lee, entitled “Thursday (tomorrow) evening supper?”

I didn’t know him. He was the sound guy when I gave a speech at the women’s conference Inspire. He took care of the microphones and Powerpoint and everything ran smoothly. I thought he was nice and comfortable… but that was January 2016.

Of course, I fled to Laurel Street. And, despite my dramatic promise to boycott their weddings, my friends were quite supportive.

“I know him, he’s a nice guy,” Velinda said. “You don’t have to have handwriting on the wall to go out with him and learn to know him.”

“I DO have to have handwriting on the wall,” I said. “Because I currently love my life just the way it is!”

She patiently reminded me of my most recent crises that showed I didn’t love all of my life. She was right, but I still went home and created a new document on Microsoft Word entitled “Handwriting on the Wall”.  Problems are always more manageable on paper, and I guess I felt more in control if I could write about it.

And God gave me things to put on the document.

My aunt knows Marnell, so she was telling me all the good things she knew about him. In fact she said she really didn’t know anything bad about him. However, she said she doesn’t know if he travels much. I made a mental note to grieve over my love for the Middle East. It’s not that I had any immediate plans of going back to Jordan or Lebanon, but I have a particular connection with those places.

However, the first time I talked to Marnell, we talked about the Middle East. He told me he had been to Israel and Jordan. In fact, unlike me, he had been to the  Middle East twice. 

So I put that in my document.

My sisters gave non-stop commentary.

“You always said your first name is too long, and so you can’t marry anyone with more than two syllables in their last name!” Kelsie pointed out to me.

Well, everyone says ridiculous things like that.  Still, you can’t get much shorter than “Lee”, so I added it to my document.

Then my aunt text me one night and said, “Can you believe it? Marnell’s birthday is October 15!”

Now of all the days in the year, no day has been as significant to me as October 15th. That day is my mom’s birthday, and one year in particular since her death (2013), God spoke to me very specifically on that day, restoring hope to replace the confusion of the doubts I battled in 2011.

No, I couldn’t believe it. So I added it to my document.

I had put about 7 things on the document when it disappeared. By this time Marnell and I had eaten supper at Cappy’s a couple of times.

He is a nice guy, I admitted to myself. The first time he prayed thanking God for our food, I was struck by the confidence, comfort, and relevance of his brief prayer. Clearly he was accustomed to talking to God, and this made me admire him.

But I began to feel like I was standing in a bank of fog rolling in from the sea. I felt disoriented, lost, unsure of my surroundings. I felt like I could not remember who I had been in January. And I still hadn’t decided about going to medical school, although in truth I had been slowly backing away from the idea because I love doing my online school so much.

I confided in one of my co-workers, Mary, one day.

“I feel like I’m not the rational person I used to be,” I told her.

“Good,” she said.

I talked to my older brother Scott on the phone.

“I don’t even know if I should date, because I’m not sure I’m the marrying kind at this point,” I said.

He just burst out laughing.

I ran into a couple of coworkers in the cafeteria and told them how I was feeling.

“I just really didn’t have this on my radar,” I said as we waited for the grill.

“That’s how it happens,” Jesse said with a twinkle in her eye.

“Have a good night, girlfriend,” Jenny said dramatically.

I told Marnell how I felt one night at Starbucks while I sipped a hot chocolate that he had bought for me. I appreciated the drink, but the idea that someone else would buy my hot chocolate was foreign propaganda as well. Everything was unfamiliar and strange, and I told him this, a bit tearfully I’m afraid. Then I told him what Velinda had said and how I made a document called “Handwriting on the Wall”.

“And then I lost my document!” I exclaimed.

It was really an odd disappearance.

“Well,” he said after a little reflection, “maybe that’s a good thing.”

“But I know God showed me those things,” I protested.

“I’m sure He did,” he said.

“But maybe he wants me to just trust Him, perhaps?” I suggested, reading his mind. I have to confess, he was doing such a fantastic job of listening, I began to laugh at myself. I mean, really, who drafts a document to…

“Maybe so,” he said with a smile.

He looked at my computer but he agreed the file would not be easily retrievable. Coming from an IT guy, I decided to abandon the search.

A few days later, we were discussing Isaiah when we ran across Isaiah 5:18-19:

Woe to those…who say: “Let Him hurry up and do His work quickly so that we can see it! Let the plan of the Holy One of Israel take place so that we can know it!”

“Dear me… It’s like God rebuked them for asking for signs!” I exclaimed. “That’s why God took my document!”

At this point, Marnell might have said, “See, what did I tell you?”

But he didn’t.

That’s it for now. I think I said it last spring, but I’ll say it again: if you are looking for neatly finished, rational stories, you’d better find another blog. However, since 2011, I have learned more fully that God is completely trustworthy, that He loves us, and that He knows what He’s doing even when we don’t understand Him.

By the way, did you see the beautiful flowers at the end of my blog last week?  I couldn’t bring myself to tell you who they were from, but I had to share them as a subtle hint.

And the river was really beautiful the other night!

39 Responses to The Lost Document

  1. Catherine March 11, 2017 at 4:32 pm #

    I am so excited for you! Yes, Marnell is a nice guy (my second cousin) and I have often prayed for him to find just the right woman. I would be thrilled if that was you :). And by the way, my book is really moving along – I think it went to the printers last week and I appreciate your encouragement along the way!!

    • M K Borkholder March 11, 2017 at 6:18 pm #

      God is good all the time! So happy for you! Love your down to earth blog! Praying for you as this beautiful story unfolds… God bless you!

      • 500Admin March 11, 2017 at 6:48 pm #

        Thank you!

    • 500Admin March 11, 2017 at 6:46 pm #

      And that is exciting news Catherine! Good for you and thank you for the good wishes!

  2. Marj March 11, 2017 at 4:59 pm #

    I love every part of this story!!!! Watching you and “listening” to you learn to trust God and walk in out-of-your-comfort-zone places has been so inspiring! I shared that with you last time you were home, I think. But now, a new path…a new OOYCZ experience…and the very same God is there. Walking right with you. Writing on your wall! Love Him! Love you! And I will be sure to love your love story, too!

    • 500Admin March 11, 2017 at 6:47 pm #

      Thanks Mark! That’s a great acronym!

  3. Rosie March 11, 2017 at 5:31 pm #

    I am super excited to see this story unfold. Just wanted to tell you again !!!:)

    • 500Admin March 11, 2017 at 6:47 pm #

      ? Thanks dear!

  4. Pam Miller March 11, 2017 at 5:33 pm #

    So happy when I heard this news.? Marnell is a SUPER guy.

    • 500Admin March 11, 2017 at 6:48 pm #

      Thanks Pam. ?

  5. Anonymous March 11, 2017 at 6:53 pm #

    Loved this blog – brought back memories of a friend of mine that went through the same thing. ?

  6. Dawn March 11, 2017 at 7:18 pm #

    Love, this post, and the picture at the end!!! I’m super excited for you and can’t wait to hear the rest of the story God is writing….

    • 500Admin March 11, 2017 at 7:44 pm #

      Thanks Dawn!

  7. Pauline March 11, 2017 at 7:48 pm #

    I loved your story ,and hope it keeps on going and going with the blessings of the Lord . I read it to Reuben ,Don’t know if you are friends on FB . But I thought he should hear all about your love life . Will be awaiting further developments !!

    • 500Admin March 11, 2017 at 7:59 pm #

      Kelsie said she just had a wonderful visit with you! Made me miss you and want to grow up to be like you!

  8. Darlene(Kilmer)Martin March 11, 2017 at 8:03 pm #

    Oh thanks for sharing Katrina! Was so fun to read? interesting to see the two of you together. I don’t know him personally but also as the sound man at BMA stuff. May many blessings and insight and peace and trust be yours at this time!

    • 500Admin March 11, 2017 at 8:56 pm #

      Thanks Darlene! Good to hear from you.

  9. Joy March 11, 2017 at 9:07 pm #

    I don’t know you but I’ve known Marnell most of my life. He’s a great fellow! I spent a great week at Pickle Lake teaching VBS with him around 11 years ago. He’s also a brother of my nice brother in law. I like your sweet story!

    • 500Admin March 11, 2017 at 9:44 pm #

      Thanks Joy!

  10. Barbara Miller March 11, 2017 at 9:11 pm #

    So happy for you and looking forward to meeting your special friend (:

    • 500Admin March 11, 2017 at 9:45 pm #

      Thanks Barb. You are certainly someone he needs to meet!

  11. Kathryn Swartz March 11, 2017 at 9:12 pm #

    Thanks for your honest writing. And this was exciting news to hear! God bless you and Marnell whether or not it leads to marriage (but I hope God wants it to because of the synergy it can produce in you both.) Having married at 35 I know a little bit about how changing mindset from single to not single is a little complicated.

    • 500Admin March 11, 2017 at 9:46 pm #

      Good to hear Kathryn! Thank you. ?

  12. Anonymous March 11, 2017 at 10:09 pm #

    HE LOVES GOD AND LOVES TO HELP PEOPLE, LIKE ME ROCKY MARTIN FROM INDIA,
    AND HIS FAMILY IS ALSO LIKE HIM,

    GOD BLESS YOU BOTH. ALL THE BEST, THANKS
    ROCKY.

    • 500Admin March 11, 2017 at 10:25 pm #

      Thanks, Rocky. I’m pleased to have made your acquaintance as well.

  13. Sylvia March 12, 2017 at 6:38 am #

    This is an amazing story, Katrina! I love the birthday piece to your love story puzzle. Praise the Lord for he hath done great things for you and we are GLAD!

  14. Denise March 12, 2017 at 3:25 pm #

    Loved this post!!! Can’t wait to see more of Gods writing on your life and on your “wall”… Excited for you!!!

  15. James March 12, 2017 at 6:05 pm #

    Very neat Story Katrina……I’m really excited for you guys! I loved the comment about how beautiful the river was the other night!
    =)

    • 500Admin March 12, 2017 at 8:23 pm #

      Thanks James 🙂

  16. Pamela K Carrenard March 13, 2017 at 10:12 am #

    Yes he is a very nice man. We went to SMBI with him

    • 500Admin March 13, 2017 at 10:21 am #

      🙂 He seems to have a lot of friends from SMBI! Thanks for the comment.

  17. Dorcas March 13, 2017 at 10:30 am #

    Thank you for letting us in on your story and for sharing so honestly. Romantic relationships are seldom a smooth slide from Before to After, and I love your portrayal of the bumpy and disorienting but fun and full-of-discovery ride.

    • 500Admin March 13, 2017 at 10:37 am #

      Thanks Dorcas! 🙂

  18. Gina March 13, 2017 at 12:31 pm #

    Oh Katrina, this brought back a flood of memories. I too was busy, fulfilled, and quite happy with my life, and I didn’t appreciate a guy, even a nice guy, turning my world on edge. I remember the haze of confusion and wondering if I should encourage him or run the other way. And most of all, wanting what God wanted and not sure what that was.

    But fifteen years later, I tell my husband often that I’m so very glad that he didn’t let me stay comfortable. Life can actually get even better, though I wouldn’t have believed it back then.

    Love the cute way you shared the news!
    Gina

    • 500Admin March 13, 2017 at 1:21 pm #

      Thanks Gina! Good to hear a perspective like yours 🙂

  19. Kim March 18, 2017 at 5:14 pm #

    I don’t know you, really, but knew your parents when we lived in Wisconsin.
    I ust wanted to say that I enjoy our blog, the Raw and honest approach that you have in life.

    Congratulations on another part of life to grow in faith and trust. 🙂

    We knew Marnell from Faith Builders. A great guy!
    God bless you!

    • 500Admin March 18, 2017 at 8:23 pm #

      Thanks for writing Kim!

  20. Daniel Miller March 22, 2017 at 9:48 pm #

    I just heard this news tonight and had to come read about it here! This is exciting! I have not seen Marnell in a very long time, but he is a fine man, and the thought of the two of you together is a good one.

    • 500Admin March 23, 2017 at 2:28 am #

      Thanks Daniel! And I wish I could be there to listen to your workshops!

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